Should Christians Do ___________ #1

What can Christians do in the bedroom with one another? By one another, I simply mean their spouse. What is allowed and what is not allowed?

Today, we are going to look at Role-Playing.

Can a Christian couple role-play together?

What is Role-Playing?

Role-Playing is when a husband and wife act out a scenario together or dress up to pretend they are somewhere and someone they are not. 

Remember when you were a little kid and you and your friends played "house?" This is what it essentially is, but with a sexual twist.

Common Role-Playing Scenarios may include, A repair man, picking the girl at the bar, damsel in distress, etc. 

Can Christians role-play if it remains in the bedroom (with their spouse)?

Should Christian Do___________ (Series explanation)

I am about ready to start my first blogging series. I am quite excited! Many are confused as to what is acceptable and what is not within the marriage bed between a husband and a wife.

In the blogging series, I will be using the same principles found in the book called, Real Marriage. With different fantasies that we may look at, I will address if it is lawful, is it helpful, should I (you) do it?

Because of the nature of this series, some will wish I would go more in depth. Others may think I crossed the line. Some may accuse me of being liberal, while others will think I am not liberal enough.

Fantasy Chart

Apparently this survey was on the marriage bed, I could not locate it. I have found this on Monobliss and deemed it helpful.

I would challenge you to print this survey (2 copies), give one to your spouse and you fill out the other. Once finished, swap papers (I did this, awaiting spouse to complete).

Remember the more open and secure we can be with each other the stronger our relationship and the better the sex. Why are you waiting get going!!!--Monobliss

Passion

(insert L= like, WL= would like, DNL= do not like, SL= sometimes like)
I ____ share my fantasies with my partner
I ____ to have sex ___ daily, ___ 2x week, ___ 3x week, ___ 1x week, ___ never stop
I ____ being ravished
I ____ sex in the ___morning, ___afternoon, ___evening best
I ____ to find my partner naked ready for sex
I need to have more sex ___yes, ___ no
I need less sex than my spouse ___often, ___sometimes, ___ never
When my spouse rubs, massages my ______ I want sex instantly
My partner’s satisfaction is just as important as mine __always , __sometimes, __never
I am turned on when my spouse tells me they love me by ___________
I have a lot of fantasies __yes __no
I feel comfortable sharing my fantasies with my spouse ___ yes, ___no

Foreplay

(insert L= like, WL= would like, DNL= do not like, SL= sometimes like)
I ____ it really slow and erotic with lots of touching
I ____ to give my spouse massages
I ____ to shower with my spouse
I ____ to see my spouse partially clothed
I ____ my nipples pinched massaged squeezed
I ____ to watch my spouse masturbate
I ____ to masturbate
I ____ to mutually masturbate with my spouse
I ____ when my spouse offers themselves to me

Clothes

(insert L= like, WL= would like, DNL= do not like, SL= sometimes like)
I ____ it when my partner tells me they are not wearing underwear
I ____ my partner to wear something I can tear off them
I ____ my partner to dress scantly
I ____ to see my spouse in a thong
I ____ exposing parts of my body to attract attention
I ____ my spouse to wear a skirt with crotch less panties / hose

Positions

(insert L= like, WL= would like, DNL= do not like, SL= sometimes like)
I ____ the missionary position
I ____ to be on the bottom
I ____ to 69
I ____ the woman on top facing away
I ____ to be on top
I ____ anal sex
I ____ it Doggy style
I ____ side by side

Places

(insert L= like, WL= would like, DNL= do not like, SL= sometimes like)
I ____ sex in the shower
I ____ sex on the dining room table
I ____ sex on the kitchen counter
I ____ sex in an office
I ____ sex in the living room
I ____ sex in cars or vans
I ____ sex outdoors
I ____ sex in the pool
I ____ sex in the hot tub

Talk

(insert L= like, WL= would like, DNL= do not like, SL= sometimes like)
I ____ my spouse to make noise during sex
I ____ talking dirty to my spouse
I ____ to make my spouse yell out with passion during sex
I ____ it when my spouse uses short phrases like YES, Faster, Harder, repeatedly
I ____ it when my spouse tells me to _____ them now
I climax stronger and faster when my spouse talks dirty ___ yes, ___ no
I am turned off when my spouse talks dirty ___ yes, ___ no
I am turned on when my spouse talks dirty ___ yes, ___ no
I am turned off when my spouse use clinical terms ___ yes, ___ no

Acts

(insert L= like, WL= would like, DNL= do not like, SL= sometimes like)
I ____ to finger my spouse to orgasm
I ____ to be fingered to orgasm
I ____ giving oral sex
I ____ receiving oral sex
I ____ my spouse to perform oral sex without my asking

Misc

(insert L= like, WL= would like, DNL= do not like, SL= sometimes like)
I ____ to skinny dip
I ____ to use a vibrator
I ____ to use lube
I ____ to eat ____ fruit off your naked body
I can’t stand it when the dog or cat is watching us have sex ___ yes, ___ no
My favorite thing you wear to tell me you want sex is _______
My favorite food to play with during sex is __________
I like sex best when we ___________
The best time we had sex was __________

*What didn't you like about this survey?
*If taken, what did it reveal about you? Your partner?

-Blissful Intimacy

Sexual Toy Review--Candle

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One of the toys in my A-store is this candle. What is so romantic about a candle? We (spouse and I) have played with these kinds of candles and absolutely love it.

What is so romantic about this? What is different about these candles than other kinds of candles? This candle's purpose is to be used to massage your spouse. When lit, the wax heats up and can be applied to his/her body. Yes, anywhere on the outside of the body. They make different smells and it feels good!

It is romantic because you are being touched by your your spouse, who should be your lover and hopefully awesome at it. However, let's be honest; guys have a harder time understanding (at times, not always) the importance of foreplay. How good it feels to be touched and explored, everywhere. This will help give him direction to touch and massage you everywhere.

Feel free to check the store for a few other items and I will try and update the store this week!

-Blissful Intimacy

Surprise

Have you ever thought of surprising your husband or wife? If you are married, most of us have done this at some point. Let me ask a follow up question.

Have you surprised him/her recently?

If so, I want to hear what you have done for her/him?

For women: Have you asked him what he would prefer? What does he like and enjoy? Here's an idea to surprise him; when he comes home from work, already be completely nude.--This may get the vibe going. Or send your husband a sexy text. Just an idea (there are many more). Serve him.

For men: What does your wife enjoy? Ask her! If she does not know, offer to give her a body massage. Whisper something thoughtful in her ear. Bring home something she really enjoys (chocolate, ice cream, wine). If she wants you naked, arrive home and get your clothes off in no time! Men, be patient--value your wife and serve her...it can take some women longer to climax and that is okay. Serve her!

*What are some ways you have surprised your spouse to make him/her feel special?

-Blissful Intimacy

Romancing Your Spouse

Romance.

How are you pursuing to romance your spouse?  What are you doing to romance him/her?

Let me say this,  it is nearly impossible to romance your spouse without knowing him/her.  Obviously you live in the same house and know them a little bit. What I mean is to know them deeper than the surface.

To truly be able to pursue your spouse is to know what they enjoy and how him/her feels loved.

Do you pursue your spouse based on what you like or do you seek his/her happiness in romancing your spouse?

-Blissful Intimacy

(Check back next week for a Sex Position to Try)